Have you ever been affiliated, dedicated to an organization or activity for a decent part of your life and then suddenly left?
You didn't tell anyone why you left, or maybe not even understand why at the time, but had only the notion that you need leave and move on with you life?
Do you regret your decision?
These types of questions have been plaguing me for over ten year now. The little voice that is so annoying and never ceases in my mind always asks me questions, but I can never answer back. So my mind asks again and again and drives me nuts because I don't know the true answer.
I am a 1st degree Black belt in Tang Soo Do Moo Duk Kwan. There is never a such thing as a former martial artist or former black belt, its is in the heart, and not on the belt. One of my most cherished achievements is receiving my 1st degree black belt because the regiment isn't like the run of the mill karate studios. I remember walking by other karate school's window and just laugh at them for the lack of dedication, spirit, and perfection. I would say the type of training I grew up with is intense military, traditional, and philosophical. From when I was 9 years old to a teenager, martial arts was my life. I went around the nation and world in tournaments, did performances, instructed, and every new opportunity arose I taken it. After school for about four hours a day, I would either be training or instructing. My body would pass out on my bed at 10 pm from all of the activities. This philosophy was carried from martial arts into my academic life and personal life. It laid my foundation for my life it has served me well for years, but I feel now that I am off the track and stuck.
My life isn't where I want it to be and its very naive believe that it will come out just as I hoped for. Quite honestly, I feel like one of those kids that were famous when they were young and their adult life is really messed up. The one leg up, always places you two steps back. I know that my life is better than others, but why is life worth living if you aren't living life the way you want to? Thats a tongue twister.
My life has so many loose ends and knots more than the Cobble's knot. I don't think even Maniac Magee could solve my puzzle. I really want to go back into Martial arts and just develop a greater shield on all of the ill influences in life. I want to go back into Martial arts to regain the feeling of belonging and absorb the limelight that glows everytime you are performing in front of an audience, or just demonstrating to your students. It definitely wouldn't be the same as like it was ten years ago, in fact, the place where I trained changed immensely in a decade.
Do I regret leaving Martial arts? There are many yeses and nos. There are reasons why I left and they are valid reasons. I had to start thinking about whether or not I am going to college. Are there other pursuits I want to do that martial arts is soaking up my free time. Also the feeling of lose of connection with my instructor and felt not as welcomed by my senior instructor anymore just made the push. They always put a glass ceiling on my abilities to perform and participate in the organization. I went from pet to stepchild without understanding why they treated my that way. The business behind the scenes was shaping influencing their motives. Their focus shifted from developing very skilled and worthy practitioners to dollar signs dancing around the students' head. They were in the midst of becoming a run of the mill karate school which I despise because it throws mud in everyone else's face that worked so hard and diligently to earn their belts instead of handing it to them. I will never agree with that!
But I still want to go back...
I miss it, and felt the best times of my life is centered around my martial art experience. I couldn't even describe everything in enough detail of the drama that happened during karate that made it worth living for. I just don't know if I can go back...or how to go back.

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